Peace Over Everything
Lovelies, my phone is dry. I mean like the desert in the movie Holes dry and it has been like this for years.
Now, I’m not writing this to brag or to complain about being single, in fact, it’s the opposite. I’m writing this to encourage you. If I can do it, so can you. If a girl who after every three to four months would complain about being “bored” just to entertain a guy for a few weeks to a few months and then cry about the aftermath can become delivered from the spirit of loneliness, so can you!
I had a friend once ask me incredulously, “How do you do it?!” I responded, “When you get tired, it won’t phase you. When you get tired, you will too.” I say the same thing to you, except I will also add:
When you discover the peace that surpasses ALL understanding, you won’t want that to end – for anyone or anything!
I realized that I was in a cyclical loop: I would complain about wanting someone or wanting attention; the enemy would send someone (whether I knew they weren’t right from the beginning or not); I would begin a situationship; I would become frustrated because of course the situation would bring confusion and uncertainty; then, the situation would end, leaving me more depressed, hurt and obliterating my self-esteem even more. (Somebody cue Jonathan McReyonalds, “Cycles!”) After my last situationship in 2020, I finally realized what people had been saying for forever, “I wasn’t picking right.” That year, I decided to give my relationships over to God and you know what, I’ve never been more at peace and content!
I realized that what God has for me WILL BE for me. I realized if God could send a man to Esther and Ruth, He can send one for me. If Eve was created from the rib of Adam, then certainly, I am made for someone.
Since 2020, God has been restoring my hope for love while simultaneously, increasing my desire to be used by Him. 1 Corinthians 7:34-35 says: “In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible.” Like I mentioned in my previous blog, “I am a digital marketer,” our main purpose is to live for God; therefore, my priority has become learning and growing in God. This doesn’t mean I don’t desire my husband because I do, but the difference is I am not consumed with the need to fill the void only God can fill with other people.
If you are a person who is battling loneliness or always wants/needs attention from guys, there is hope! Be honest with God about where you are and give that situation to Him. He will transform you before your very eyes and one day, you’ll realize it’s been months since you’ve entertained a guy!
